So, I think that it’s more than past time for
a new A-Z of Recovery post. Since beginning my recovery 4 years ago, there have
been a few times where I’ve relapsed or really wanted to do so. Managing the
urges that any negative feelings or illnesses promote is very important for
staying in recovery and taking care of yourself.
Take some
time out for yourself- 'Me time' is anything that you know
that you enjoy, that de-stresses you and inevitably improves your mood. It is
most often our "escape route" in times of stress and that isn't a
problem. We all need a little space to just forget about our troubles for a
while before getting on with dealing with them. It is a time to rejuvenate our
souls. Whether it’s some meditation, a fun new class or just a walk, find
something that you can do for yourself that will not only provide some personal
time but also provides a distraction from whatever is plaguing you.
Stop
comparing yourself to others- it’s so easy to get caught up in the trap of
looking at people and comparing everything about them to ourselves. These are
generally strangers so we end up taking things at face value and making
ourselves feel bad because we feel we don’t measure up to how fabulous the
other people look, or how nice their car or house is etc. The truth is, we
don’t know the backstory of anyone we have just met so they could
Become
aware of your negative self-talk- (i.e. I can’t do that because I’m fat. I
always make mistakes). Challenge and dispute that talk (i.e. I am successful at
… The size of my body does not determine my worth). Replace the negative
statements with positive statements and encouragement (i.e. I have value. It is
o.k. to make mistakes. I learn from my mistakes).
Treat yourself as you would a friend- one of the best ways to become conscious of the way that we negatively
talk about ourselves is to begin to treat yourself as you would your best
friend. You wouldn’t tell them to not eat for the day in order to compensate for
what they ate the previous night. You wouldn’t tell them to punish themselves
for their body size through over-exercise, self-harm, or abusive eating habits.
You wouldn’t tell them they were worthless or unloveable because of their
weight. So why do you tell yourself these things? Break the cycle and
start treating yourself like a friend—you deserve that kindness and love from
everyone, especially yourself.
Challenge your negative thoughts- You may not be able
to change the way you feel about your body today, tomorrow, or a month from
now, but you can begin the process by challenging the negative thoughts
you have in the moment. Write out a dialogue between your negative voice
and a self-loving and accepting one. Even if you don’t believe the things you say
to counter the negative thoughts, it’s still so important to challenge them,
because each time you do, you’re taking away some of their power and
reclaiming your own. And the more you challenge those thoughts, the less
you will believe them. The more you argue back, the easier fighting the voice
will become. So even if it feels silly and useless in the moment, keep arguing
back. Don’t allow your negative body thoughts to go unchallenged.
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